Live your life by what people will say about you at your funeral

If you die tomorrow, how will you be remembered?

It’s been far too long since my last blog post. Truth be told, I’m not a blogger but in all my crazy antics this year. I seem to be inspiring a few people, so let me try write about it.

If you’re 20 something and reading this. I encourage you to look long and hard at what interests you and see where you would like to make a difference before you have a midlife crisis. Just because you feel invisible now, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t start thinking about the impact you will make in your lifetime.

If you’re 30 something and reading this. You should be  ready to make a difference if you’re not already. You too can make an impact, so now is the time to start making a positive change. Choose two (or more) charities and pour every cent you raise into them. Check out my previous post to see how I chose my two.

If you’re 40 something and you’re reading this. You may have a long forehead that starts at the back of your head, a beer belly, girls might not find you attractive anymore, you’ve bought a Porsche to compensate. Or you may just feel like you’re in a rut. I am talking directly to you. You should be thinking about others and not just yourself.

Two events that happened this year cemented my reasoning as to why I am determined to live my life by what people will say at my funeral.

I lost my Mum in February to cancer. She was a massive influence in my life. She force fed me the “power of positive thought” from a young age which made me an eternal optimist and the man I am today. For that I will be eternally grateful. My Mum was 68.

I also lost a good mate last week. Keith was my tenant in my granny flat for eight years and he has moved in when my second daughter was three months old. Keith was only 63 but lived a full life of sex, drugs and rock and roll but was also a really positive mentor in my life. He had a humble and carefree attitude to life that was as rare as a snakes’ armpit.

The impact of both these deaths was massive, but it has brought out some new perspective which I would like to share with you.

“Live your life by what people will say about you at your funeral.”

With this thought in mind I’m committing to doing more and making more of a difference which will be tough as my teams and I have had an amazing year. More about that later.

Progression. A simple word. I think about it each day. How am I going to be better today than I was yesterday? We could be like a selfish politician who’s interested only in filling his pockets and not benefiting all the voters who voted you into power. But I promise you, in giving you shall receive way more than receiving.

In the last two years since joining the Cows I feel I have achieved a lot but need to take stock and see how I can progress and make more of an impact.

Achievements:

  1. Celebrated 20 years with my wife this year and she still loves me.
  2. Remained married and faithful to my wife of 13 years in tough times.
  3. My company turned 10 years old.
  4. I have two amazing daughters who are thriving in sport and school.
  5. Total distance cycled, swum and run in competition: 1803,5km
  6. Total raised directly from 2013-2015: R200 000.
  7. Total raised by KZN Herd in 2015: R600 000.
  8. Rode 106km Amashova on an Ice Cream Bike.
  9. Rode 94.7km Momentum Cycle Challenge on an Ice Cream Bike.
  10. Finished Ironman 70.3 taking 50 minutes off previous best time.
  11. Finished the 42.2km Deloitte Marathon.
  12. Honored by Rotary Umhlanga for my charity work.
  13. Honored by The Cows as the top individual fund raiser for 2015.

In essence I think what I’m trying to say is:

  • Stay true to yourself.
  • Make clear cut goals.
  • Be selfless and not selfish.
  • Keep stock of achievements and set bigger goals all the time.

Prepare yourself for some cliches.

  • Surround yourself with winners and you too will become a winner.
  • Life is short.
  • Get a life.
  • Get a new lease on life.
  • When life gives you melons, your probably dyslexic.
  • Today is the first day of the rest of your life.
  • Life’s a bitch.
  • Life’s a beach.

These are all so true and need to be lived and not just preached. At the end of the day, your life is exactly what you make of it.

My teams I alluded to earlier are my secret to success. I owe everything to them.

Firstly my wife is extraordinary. The very best mother to my kids. My partner in crime who puts up with all my crazy antics.

My business partners and PA are gold too. Without their support none of this would be achievable.

The KZN CHOC Cow Herd are some of the best people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. Selfless human beings indeed.

Next year’s goals are even bigger, in fact I’ve declared it The Year of the Family, so I’ll be doing Midmar Mile with my eldest, Tour Durban on a tandem with my wife, 100 miles to nowhere with the whole family, Gabran with both my daughters and Amashova with the whole family on tandems.

If you’re interested in becoming a cow or getting involved please mail me on durbsdaisy@thecows.co.za or merely make a comment.

 

 

 

New glasses for the needy – a new initiative.

How could you not help this man?

How could you not help this man?

Meet Wimpy. He’s a 52 year old car guard at Blue Lagoon.

I met Wimpy one morning when I was taking my hand cycle off the back of my truck, he asked me why an able bodied man had a disabled person’s bike. I told him I was planning on riding a the Momentum 94.7 cycle challenge on the hand cycle to raise money for Ethembeni school for the physically disabled and the visually impaired. (www.ethembenischool.co.za)

He immediately introduced me to two regulars in the car park and then asked how he could help me. So a man who can’t rub two brass farthings together would like to help me raise money for the needy? What a Champion.

Wimpy is blind in his left eye and by his estimations has 60% vision in his right eye. He earns between R50 and R120 a day working his car park and he cannot afford to see an optometrist or buy a new pair of glasses.

Luckily, my mate Glenn Nugent who is an optometrist and says he can help Wimpy out. Nugent Family Optometrist (www.nugentfamilyoptom.co.za) of Durban North told me, all it will cost is R800 for a new pair of bifocals for Wimpy and he will waiver the consultation fee as he would like to help out.

Thanks to Rich and Cheryl Clacher (aka @ApothecaryRich and his wife @LadyD_Toiger) we have raised R500 and I’ve decided to throw in the additional R300 and get Wimpy some new glasses.

On the 26th of May we returned to Nugent Family Optometrist for the fitting.

elation

Look at the elation on his face.

trying them on

Glenn doing the fitting

seeing for the first time in a longtime

Focus.

thanks Glen, Cheryl and Rich

Seeing and feeling like a champion.

I don’t think it should end here.

Do you know anyone who also deserves a little lady luck? If so please could you send me a mail to gordsreid1973@gmail.com and explain why you think they deserve glasses.

The Cows

In 2008 a mother and father in Johannesburg lost a beautiful little girl to a disease that is affecting us all. Yes, the big C. They decided to turn tragedy into a triumph by raising some money for CHOC (Childhood Cancer Foundation of SA). they planned to ride the Momentum 94.7 Cycle Challenge in some kind of outfit and get people to sponsor them. All they could find were 6 cow suits.

And so The Cows were born. Last year we had around 500 cows riding the 94.7 cycle Challenge and we’ve collectively raised over R21 million.

I was introduces to the cows in July 2013 by a Delene Mulley who’s faught her own battle with cancer and won. Sadly she lost her sister in the middle of fighting her battle.

Since then I have been fortunate enough to have raised in the region of R150 000 directly or indirectly for CHOC completed a  Half Iron Man distance triathlon, a few half marathons, many MTB races and we’re turning Amashova, Tour Durban and Midmar into fully fledged Cow events.

The cows are the most amazing buch of selfless human beings. Iris, Lauren and Julia Varty, Ian Prentis, Lauren Brown, Lynne MacRae, Delene Mulley, Cliff Pinto, Deon van Niekerk, Michael van Niekerk, Kerrin and Grant Bain, Daisy aka Karen DeBeer and many many more.

We ride,we run, we mountain bike, we triathlon, we swim but most of all we have fun whilst FUNdraise for http://www.choc.org.za

Next on the agenda is the Tour Durban on an ice cream bike. What the local media for updates

If you’d like to change your life and give some hope please call me or mail daisy@thecows.co.za